What would you sacrifice to live a fairytale?

If I have seen one article on The Duke and Duchess of Sussex, I have seen one hundred.  You know, Harry and Meghan. Listen to me, calling them on a first-name basis as if we are old friends. I don’t know them. In fact, I don’t know a single person that actually does know them, yet everyone has an opinion on their life these days.

I understand the world’s fascination with the young couple. But what I don’t understand is the world’s shock and disappointment they have decided to step back.  I hear women saying, “How could Meghan walk away from that life?  She has everything. All the money, luxuries, and conveniences a human could want!”  Some even take offense Princess Meghan ditched the title for a more normal life, saying, “If that were me, I would never even think of giving up the fairytale.”

Oh my gosh you guys, what is our world’s version of a fairytale? Maybe we believe we all would love having a personal driver, chef, stylist, nanny, and a palace to call home … but at what cost?  Would you want to wake up every morning seeing lies about you plastered all over the tabloids?  Would you want racist jokes being made against your new baby?  Would you want personal letters to your father exposed for the world to read? Would you want people judging your every move? And family members telling you how to live your life? Would you trade your freedom to express yourself? Or trade your first amendment rights to speak openly?  Would you give up your privacy? And jeopardize your mental health? Would you want to feel suffocated by rumors and badgered by the British press 24/7?  Would you sacrifice the vision of your own life to fulfill the agenda of the Monarchy?  Basically, what is your happiness worth? Can you put a price tag on it? Yep, me neither and that is my exact point.

It’s not a fairytale if you are miserable.  It’s not a fairytale if you worry you may die the same way your mother-in-law did.  It’s not a fairytale if you are constantly holding your breath, waiting for the next verbal attack or next slanderous social media post. No money, personal driver, chef, stylist, nanny, or palace can make you feel good in your own skin.  Only you can do that.  And if a girl isn’t feeling that way because of circumstances outside of her control, women around the globe should rally around her decision to choose a better path for herself and her family.  One that she can control. Not judge it.

And here’s the thing that confuses people.  Meghan is not giving up and walking away.  Seems to me she is simply enforcing her boundaries and walking into her own peace.  I like that about her. And I like she gets it.  We only have one life. One. And we better be very conscious about how we are living it.  Our society has gotten so obsessed with material things, wealth, and status, we have forgotten that none of that truly matters.  So when we see someone like Meghan voluntarily leave it all behind, we are flabbergasted. Puzzled.  Surprised.  That is a reflection of society’s materialistic values. Not hers.  And I hope women around the globe are taking note. Stuff is meaningless. Yet the freedom to be yourself is priceless.

So back to my questions – what would you trade in to regain your smile?  Like Meghan, I would trade it all too. In a second.  The tax payer’s money, the cottage, the title, everything.  If I could wake up and make a positive difference and help others on my terms without following someone else’s rules, it’s a no brainer for me. Perhaps Meghan should remind us all, the true fairytale in life is what WE MAKE IT. Not what society says it should be.




  1. Ann Cole
    January 20, 2020 / 5:52 pm

    Nicole, I am 70 and at this age you have pretty much seen it all. So many times I wish I could have just put my arms around her and said it’ll be alright. But in reality not in”the Royals” world. Her and Harry want their own life with people around them that truly love them. Kudos to them. They will be fine. Press will lose some interest and they can have privacy. They can have hands on raising of their children. To me, standing their ground and taking a stand for their own mental health is what happiness is all about.

    • nicoleallshouse
      January 27, 2020 / 5:50 am

      Yes! I feel bad everyone is blaming her … and there are always two sides to every story. My wouldn’t it be amazing to be a fly on that castle wall 🙂 Have a great week, Ann!

  2. January 22, 2020 / 5:00 pm

    Amen sister. I love reading your blog. You’re so inspiring.

    • nicoleallshouse
      January 27, 2020 / 5:46 am

      I am so happy to enjoy it Gwen, Truly. I don’t make a penny off of this blog. I simply write because I love to connect with other amazing women like you. Writing has always been my therapy, so if it also inspires, then all the more reason to keep doing it. Big love to you!

  3. Rena Dudhmal
    January 25, 2020 / 12:13 am

    Very few people know who they are. I hope they are reading this and paying attention. We have been taught that there is nothing we can’t do. Then we are expected to do everything. I love to read your messages. I am 71 and took your advice before you were born. I am married with one son. Been married before but single for a long time in the middle. Retired from UAB. Have a life!! A wonderful time and listen to Nichole her brain is bigger than any man.
    I am not a cook. Something quick and like all women I make good reservations.

    • nicoleallshouse
      January 27, 2020 / 5:23 am

      hahahaha, Rena. Your note made me smile. I always love to hear about strong, smart, and independent women like you! Thank you for sharing.

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