I am not going to lie.
I miss this body.
I’m pretty sure that’s the same sentence every mom in the world has said.
Or while trying on swimsuits this time of year.
We may all have “mommy brain,” but we still remember what our swimsuits looked like on us, pre-baby.
This was taken on my honeymoon, when I was 31.
Now I’m 41.
With 3 little kids.
I miss my tight tummy.
I miss my perky chest.
I miss my wrinkle free face.
Hear me clearly, I am not at all dismissing how magical it is to help create and then carry life. It is truly God’s purest blessing.
What I AM saying is, that it’s not a selfish thought to miss a younger and firmer version of ourselves, every once in awhile.
That doesn’t mean you don’t appreciate the body you have now! After all, the body you have now, birthed a human being. And that alone makes you a miracle worker. Those stretch marks are earned! My point is, when an old picture crosses your path – don’t compare the 20/30 year old version of yourself to the 40/50 year old version of yourself! That’s such an unrealistic expectation, especially since gravity exists!
And if you are a man reading this, compliment a mother in your life. You will never truly be able understand what a woman’s body goes through for 9 months at a time.
Our skin is stretched. Significantly. Deflated. Stretched significantly again. Deflated again. And that’s with 2 kids. Imagine the mamas who have 3, 4, 5, 6, kids. Veins pop out we didn’t even know we had. Brown spots mark our face. Our hair changes texture. Our boobs sag. Our feet grow bigger. And that’s just part of it. The reality is this – even if you stay in the gym 24/7, your body will never look “exactly” like it did pre-baby, without the help of cosmetic surgery. Us women have to accept that fact and not be overly hard on ourselves.
With that said, ladies, you are not a bad mom for seeing an old snapshot and thinking how young and refreshed you looked … and secretly wishing you still had “that look.” After all, you were young and refreshed at one point. Then your children kept you up all night, vomited all over you, and spent years after that taking up the time you used to reserve for napping and going to the gym. But it’s worth it. They are worth it.
And my friend, you are worth so much more than you know.
Sincerely, a mom of 3
(Also known as “jiggly” according to my 9 & 6 year old)